I love Ricky and Lucy from I Love Lucy. They are so wonderful together; they laugh together, the joke around together, they get into hilarious situations together, but they also get through the not so great moments together. They lean on one another and they have each other’s backs. They’re what I would want in a relationship. =)
Isn’t it funny when you care about people and their bad moods become your bad moods? People often think that caring about someone or loving someone is all about the good times, but what about the moments when we’re not at our best? What about when we’re angry, sad, flustered, and frustrated? How come people are quick to share happiness with the ones they love, but then become selfish and keep the hurt and pain for themselves? We love sharing when it suits us. I have a theory as to why that is.
Two people that fall for each other make themselves vulnerable; they open their lives and hearts for the other to examine and scrutinize. When you fall for someone and have that vulnerability, you try to do everything possible to make yourself seem normal and predictable so that the other person will find you to be a ‘suitable mate’. What happens when you have an off moment though? When you’re just so overwhelmed that you let it all out. The other person has NO idea where that emotion is coming from so they get angry or upset. Every action has a reaction. Fighting ensues, and then maybe, the couple is no more. If we weren’t so afraid to be ourselves sometimes, maybe we’d have better luck finding people that actually understand us. That way when said emotion comes into play, the significant other can help instead of hurt the situation.
The best way I can think of to illustrate the point I am trying to make is by this:
“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
I think we’re all looking for someone that we can be ourselves with; we’re just afraid of the possible pain that comes with letting others in. Like everything else in life, this too requires faith. If we can have faith in God and love and we can’t see it, we should try and have faith in people that we can see, hear, touch, and feel.